Can you have Two Passions as a Mother?

This lovely post is brought to you by our guest blogger, Oriana. Born and raised in Venezuela, she has worked hard to make a life for her and her family here in the US. This is the first of many posts Oriana will be blessing us with.

I was raised by a feminist who absolutely believed women could run this world: my mother. Growing up, and even now, my mom has always reminded me there is nothing impossible to achieve if we desire it with our heart. Of course, things are easier said than done, especially when it comes to raising a child while being in the workforce. Thanks to my mom, I strongly believe you can successfully manage several things at the same time as long as you dedicate yourself to whatever it is you’re doing; and when it is with passion.

I always knew I wanted to be a successful professional woman and, more importantly, an AWESOME mom. I have dreamed of being a mom ever since I was a little girl. I had names and nicknames picked out for my future children since I was 8 years-old. As you can imagine, I was told many times that, at some point, I would have to choose between being a mother and having a career. Being as stubborn as I am, I decided to prove everybody wrong.

I was an Assistant Manager (AM) at a small store and was promoted to AM at the second largest store in the area. I never expected to start getting promoted at work right while I was trying to get pregnant. I had always thought one thing would come after the other (not sure which one I was going to accomplish first). But God is wise, and he had a better plan for me.

Feeling overwhelmed with all the sudden changes, I began questioning my ability to really accomplish my dreams of being a successful career woman and mother or if I would even be good at one or the other.. Once I became pregnant, people would ask me if I was ready to be a mom….Are you EVER ready to be a mom?! Yeah, I don´t think so. One of my sisters would always tell me that one is never ready until you´re holding your baby in your arms. And oh boy, was she right!. Same way with being a Manager. Are you ever ready to put up with the pressure of running a store? To deal and solve issues that may arise? Absolutely not; but you learn to take it one day at a time.

Filled with doubt and afraid of the unknown, I started to panic. How was I going to be able to balance a very demanding job AND a newborn that needed all my care and attention? How could I possibly be good at anything when I felt clueless about everything? It was tough!

Then it hit me. I didn´t have to prove myself to anybody. I didn’t have to pay attention to all those people trying to bring me down and discourage me. I just needed to focus on all the GREAT things that were happening to me, all at once. I didn’t have to be perfect at any one thing. I am allowed to fail over and over again, because life is not about how many times you fail, right? I have allowed myself to make mistakes and become a better person in the process of figuring out how not to make them again…All I have to do is to try to be my best every day.

For the past 22 months, I have focused on giving my son everything I have to give, and more. I would like to think that I’m getting great results by the way he smiles at me! I also got promoted to Store Manager in September of 2014. It turns out life is not too bad…actually, life is pretty great right now…I have learned that it´s all about the quality rather than the quantity of time I dedicate to my son or any other task I may be working on. I have learned that everything requires effort and perseverance. I have also learned that there is no better feeling than successfully watching your dreams come true.

Thank you Oriana for this wonderful guest post, "Can you have two passions as a mother?"
Thank you Oriana for this wonderful guest post, “Can you have two passions as a mother?”

My motto these days: Life is a mission in progress-one day at the time.

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15 thoughts on “Can you have Two Passions as a Mother?”

  1. I’m not a mother yet, but I struggle already juggling passions and family. I ended up switching careers and going to grad school so I would have more part-time options when kids came. Thanks for your insightful post!

  2. Yes, I think you can DEFINITELY have two passions as a mother. I’ve been fortunate enough to stay home with my daughters the past six months, but they went back into daycare today (school is starting, I’m a teacher). A mom that has an identity outside of the home, is happier in the home.

  3. I so hear you. I am a working mom as well – it’s hard to find the balance sometimes. I think I’m teaching my son valuable life lessons though that mommy is a hard worker and will always provide for him. He loves daycare and is the happiest kid.

    • My son LOVES going to daycare. I am confident he will grow up to be a confident, independ kid with great social skills. Keep up the good work mamma! Be proud of every accomplishment! Oriana

  4. I definitely think it’s a possibility to be successful in your career and motherhood. It takes a lot of dedication, willingness to compromise and trial & error. It sounds like you are odious a great job at it!

    • Thank you Amber! Like I said, I’m taking it one day at a time. It can be challenging but not impossible, especially when you love what you do. Being able to pursue my career while raising my son has definitely been a blessing. Best luck to you and thank you for reading! Oriana

  5. Love this !! I’m a working mom and some days feel soooo guilty when i leave the kids @ school and day care. You rock we rock we got this !!! One day @ a time. Laci @ Sequins in the South

    • Let go of guilt. If at the end of the day you feel at peace with yourself and know in your heart you gave your kids your everything, then you know you are doing an awesome job. Be kind to yourself, you are doing the best you can and you are rocking it mamma!

    • Asheli, I know the feeling. It can be hard to find that balance, especially when you are overwhelmed. Think about the small things that you have accomplished, remind yourself that this episode will not last forever. Avoid guilt and instead, focus on quality rather than quantity. I am still working on this myself….Stay positive, you got this! Thanks for reading! Oriana

  6. Of course I can have 2 (or more) passions as a mom! I love my kids and enjoy my career and also have outside interests (running, triathlon, community service involvement) I’m pretty passionate about and dedicated to. And I think I’m the best version of myself when I get to be all of those things. The issue to me isn’t whether women can wear multiple hats, but why anyone would presume we can’t or shouldn’t. No one questions the premise that a man can have a career and be a devoted dad. Kids thrive when they’re well-cared for and loved, and there’s not a one-size-fits-all picture of what that has to look like.


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