How does one become a WiseMommies?
Motherhood: When one of my good friends first became a mother, she told me, “motherhood will show you and your husband just how selfish you are or have been as human beings.” I started to think about this especially after having my first born child. It is true that once you become a mother, your role changes and your focus changes more toward others. Mothers sacrifice so much for their children.
However, it is such a wonderful feeling to give, do, and love your child giving completely of yourself and kicking all selfishness to the side.
A mother’s actions, words, moods and personalities will be imitated by her children. This is a lot of responsibility resting on the shoulders of mom. Most children will perceive the world through their parents, especially their mother. Mom is often the glue of the family, the nurturer, supporter, cheerlearder, coach, and chicken noodle soup. Through the mother, children also learn the meaning of unconditional.
Moms see the best qualities in their children, giving support and constructive criticism that builds up and encourages. Mothers know their children’s weaknesses but always see the potential and are ready to offer guidance. Moms are the first to congratulate when their child succeeds and teach them the best ways “to get up” when they fall. Motherhood is an experience like nothing else.
I love how Jeff Elligener, blogger for The Cup of Salvation uses scripture and writes the following: “Think about the gift of life that a mother gives to us, from God. Without her, we cannot become the expression of His image here on Earth. And she risks all to give us the opportunity,to breathe, and to live, as Eve herself did. As she is the mother of all life on Earth, so too is our own mother the origin of our individual life. In fact, we honor God Himself when we love and honor our own mothers. On this special day, may we thank God for the mothers who have molded our hearts. As we honor them, we fulfill the truth of”, “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” Proverbs 31:28 KJV
Today, a special mom came to my mind, Anna Orlob,she inspired me to start this blog, WiseMommies, and I want to give a special shout out to her. She is an intelligent, sweet, humble, fun, beautiful mother and will forever be one of my dearest friends.
By example, she helped guide me into motherhood gracefully and I will forever be grateful for her guidance, love, friendship, teaching, and example as a mother and friend.
When we began WiseMommies, the word wise always came to my mind because I thought about my own mother, Anna, and so many other moms that I was observing and learning from.
When I tell people my blog is WiseMommies, they often assume I’m saying that I think I’m perfect. When did Wise start equaling perfection? To me, being wise is not being perfect. Through imperfection comes perfection. And every child was given an imperfect mom but perfect for that child. It is in being wise that we perfect our parenting for our own children.
I started wisemommies because through observation and an open mind, I took the best from my mom, from books, my surrounding friends, from blogs and so on and decided how I would parent. That is being Wise…open to always listening, reading, learning, never judging, accepting differences, but then being the mom God intended you to be for your child.
According to Merriam-Webster, the simple definition of being wise is:”learning or experiencing many things”,”showing good sense or judgment”,”marked by deep understanding, keen discernment, and a capacity for sound judgment”,”exercising or showing sound judgment.” I’ve never seen a definition saying that being wise is being perfect.
WiseMommies because I never wanted my blog to be about just my self but yet a collaboration of many wise moms (WiseMommies) which would help me become a wisemommy. Happy Mother’s Day, Happy Wisemommies’ Day!!!