Laundry gives the greatest meaning to the word Chores, with a capital C. Especially since the birth of my twins, I have developed a real love-hate relationship with laundry. A couple of months ago, I even wrote and posted, “How and Why We Can Be Thankful For Laundry.” As I also mentioned in that post, I honestly love to serve my family, but these days I feel less like a serving wife and mother and more like a commercial establishment for laundering clothes and textiles; To Love, Honor and Launder?
In addition to being tedious, laundry messes with your mental well-being. You load pairs of socks in and get single unpaired socks out? Where are those missing socks? You are successful with stains coming out of some shirts riddled with paint and mud and unsuccessful with other seemingly less likely to be recalcitrant stains….like sap and certain icing. The new water saving washing machine gets off balance and has to rebalance so many times (by adding water and spinning) that your water bill doubles.
Nearly 6 months ago, I stopped stressing over trying to keep up with laundry when I heard another mom say, “I didn’t quit my job and become a stay at home mom to do laundry and dishes.” This statement really helped me reevaluate some of my priorities. In the past, often I would try to finish cleaning the kitchen or doing another load or two of clothes even when I could tell my children needed me to hold them, sit with them or take them outside. Before kids, I really liked my job and working, so now when I see that my kids need my attention and I’m doing housework, I just stop and go to them. No, I didn’t quit my job to do laundry and dishes. I quit my job and became a stay at home mom to give all that I have to give to my kids and enjoy as many moments with them that I otherwise would not have had.
Keeping this phrase in my mind, “I didn’t quit my job and become a stay at home mom to do laundry and dishes” has really helped me in prioritizing and not stressing as much over completing laundry tasks. Additionally, to fold size 2T clothing and realize how big 2T pants are and that I’ll never again fold little newborn onesies often has me in tears. This moment of seeing and realizing how quickly they are truly growing often hits me when folding laundry. I can’t even imagine what view of laundering my boys have developed as many times as they’ve seen me cry, and boo hoo, while folding.
I know that we all have laundry to do so this is a universal thorn for all parents, right? I try to tackle laundry early morning, before breakfast, during naps or once kids are asleep at night. Additionally, it’s hard for me to find time to sit and pray for my children or loved ones. Now, as I fold or hang up, I pray for that person whose article of clothing I’m holding, and then I think of some of their friends and families and pray for them. This has really made a difference with turning the task of a chore into an opportunity to be with God, pray for my loved ones, find some peace and feel more gratitude. I have gradually turned the act into a moment of calm mundanity, giving it a meditative quality, akin to senbazuru.
What do you do to motivate or stay positive with chores such as laundry?
Every Tuesday we publish a post from moms of Multiples for the TwinZone Tuesdays. I posted today’s post, about laundry, due to the fact that everything, especially laundry, has quickly been doubled due to my twins. Are you a mom of multiples? Are you in the TwinZone? We would love to connect and hear from you! Other posts of possible multiple interest: 1)5 Riddles and Puzzles about Twins, 2)What you should NOT say to a mom of twins, 3)10 Reasons why Prematurity Awareness Month Matters and more….