For the first 1 ½ years, I kept wondering when it would get easier with my twins. Actually, I think all moms, and dads, but especially first time parents are surprised with just how sleep-deprived they become, attention-demanding a newborn is, and are surprised at the extent of suddenly evaporated free time. How daunting the situation is when handling a new human in your life varies depending on several factors such as your lifestyle, having help (your “village”), other siblings, health of babies, how they are sleeping, how they are eating, how many newborns you have, et cetera.
For me personally, 14 months is when I felt things were getting easier. By “things” I mean life in managing being able to get out of the house with my boys and actually achieve meetups and massive errand running. My twins had stopped one of their night time breast-feedings so I got a little more sleep, and they were past the stage of learning to walk and getting into absolutely everything(though this changed drastically at 2 1/2 years of age). Starting at 14 months, I didn’t have to carry my twins as much to keep up with them as they were better at staying closer to me and not being quite as rangy. Before that, as soon as their little feet would hit the ground they would totally disperse.
I was able to get out and do more with the three boys, I have an older singleton, from playgrounds to running errands. Up until 14 months of age, it was hard to safely go to playgrounds, meetups, playdates, or events with only me watching. It still isn’t easy, but at least more manageable and doable at more places. I know some moms of multiples have said 3 months or 6 months or 1 year but usually the common factor in stating the easier passage is the ability to get out of the house for an outing with twins in tote. With my twins born prematurely and during respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) season, I was advised to not leave the house and limit social visits until the end of RSV season. That put my twins at nearly 7 months of age. It was a very difficult house arrest for my family.
So with being able to get out of the house more, and safely, where I could manage all three of my boys; then I felt “things” were easier. My husband disagrees with me and feels they only have gotten more difficult with time. I think it is just because he has had less practice with taking them out and learning how to manage them, not having the fear of losing one plus all the energy it takes him to keep up with the boys. My twins started walking at the age of 10 and 11 months. So depending on when your twins start walking is also a wildcard factor with answering this question, “when will it get easier.”
From what other moms of multiples have told me, and how I personally have felt, when you can manage outings WITH your twins, THAT is when it gets easier.
Spoiler alert: Enjoy the easy moments because then life and managing kids and life will get hard again, then harder, then it might get easy for a while again and then hard then easy….so is the life with children.
There are two things in life for which we are never truly prepared: twins. ~Josh Billings
When did life get easier for you with twins, triplets or a singleton? Tuesdays I try to post about Multiples for TwinZone Tuesdays. Are you a mom of multiples? Are you in the TwinZone? We would love to connect and hear from you!